"if you never dip your toes in, you aren't going to find the waters that are right for you." <<<<<
I think this is the number one thing I'm working on teaching my daughter and teaching myself it as well through that and trying to lead my example. And something I really really valued the various aunties in my life who encouraged me to try new things, let me use the nice watercolor set and sit next to her on the lawn, to try a new style of debate, to be whoever I was in the moment because they didn't see me as one consistent person but all these new little girls they would meet on visits, so different year to year. It's harder as mom, and it was really really hard for my mom, in particular, who saw me as this little wayward will-o-wisp of a thing that wouldn't stay still and focused and needed her to keep me on track. whether or not that track was the right one for me. It took me until this year to learn to stop sharing my ideas and plans with her, which is about 16 years longer than I wish I had taken but at least I have learned! it physically pains her to hear me coming up with next and newest when I haven't finished the other and she truly doesn't understand why I don't write another play.
it's also a lot of energy lately spent re-training myself to not see it is as "failure" but as "practice" and "experimenting."
but... I never dated guy longer than three months consecutively until I met my now-husband, going on 8 years. I tried every from of dance I could until I started hula and now it's 9 years of that, every week, still going strong. so that's my goal for this year with my creative work, try to find something that sticks, at least a style of working, a time of working, a way of working and experimenting, a commitment to maybe not being committed to one thing but to making lots of things. exploring. but having some sense of an outline, a confine, a method a bit to the madness.
honestly, now that I think about it, I want what I had on LJ in college. I felt committed to this place and trying out styles of photo editing and writing and opening it up to critique, seeing what inspired feeling and response (even negative meant it hit a nerve at least!) I tried instagram lately and have pretty much abandoned it because it's so visual focused. wordpress is an echoing chamber of marketing schemes, it seems. maybe it's time to be more personal? keep it stored in word and in a box under my drawing table. make because of a commitment to myself. but... you know how that goes. we make to share with the world.
speaking of which, you care to share any of that explicit writing? is that weird to ask? Is reading that part of the course work in judithanese? ;)
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I think this is the number one thing I'm working on teaching my daughter and teaching myself it as well through that and trying to lead my example. And something I really really valued the various aunties in my life who encouraged me to try new things, let me use the nice watercolor set and sit next to her on the lawn, to try a new style of debate, to be whoever I was in the moment because they didn't see me as one consistent person but all these new little girls they would meet on visits, so different year to year. It's harder as mom, and it was really really hard for my mom, in particular, who saw me as this little wayward will-o-wisp of a thing that wouldn't stay still and focused and needed her to keep me on track. whether or not that track was the right one for me. It took me until this year to learn to stop sharing my ideas and plans with her, which is about 16 years longer than I wish I had taken but at least I have learned! it physically pains her to hear me coming up with next and newest when I haven't finished the other and she truly doesn't understand why I don't write another play.
it's also a lot of energy lately spent re-training myself to not see it is as "failure" but as "practice" and "experimenting."
but... I never dated guy longer than three months consecutively until I met my now-husband, going on 8 years. I tried every from of dance I could until I started hula and now it's 9 years of that, every week, still going strong. so that's my goal for this year with my creative work, try to find something that sticks, at least a style of working, a time of working, a way of working and experimenting, a commitment to maybe not being committed to one thing but to making lots of things. exploring. but having some sense of an outline, a confine, a method a bit to the madness.
honestly, now that I think about it, I want what I had on LJ in college. I felt committed to this place and trying out styles of photo editing and writing and opening it up to critique, seeing what inspired feeling and response (even negative meant it hit a nerve at least!) I tried instagram lately and have pretty much abandoned it because it's so visual focused. wordpress is an echoing chamber of marketing schemes, it seems. maybe it's time to be more personal? keep it stored in word and in a box under my drawing table. make because of a commitment to myself. but... you know how that goes. we make to share with the world.
speaking of which, you care to share any of that explicit writing? is that weird to ask? Is reading that part of the course work in judithanese? ;)